"The belief in otherness"

The power that religion has on people often amazes me to the extent that it scares me sometimes.

It is mystifying to know how some ppl can place such great faith in something that they can't SEE, FEEL and HEAR directly. It's BEWILDERING.

I ever tried searching for a religion to believe in. Through the past years, the only religion that I can gain easy access to is no doubt Christianity. I have been approached by quite a number of Christians in the streets and in school. My friends pulled me to church, in hope to convert me.

Unfortunately, I am still not internally convinced by the philosophies and theories proposed in any religion. How I wish there are more varities for me to choose from.(sound like i am going to market) I can't possibly believe in one for the sake of believing.

However, I still pray during my most hopeless moments. I must say I was very disappointed when the prayer din't work during a time when I most wanted it to come true. It kind of lose my faith partially. But I tried to think that things happen for a reason, most probably a good one. And perhaps "God loves her more than we do, that's why she has to leave."

There is such term called crisis religion. Religion coming into perspective only during a crisis. ha. quite true.


In my recent tutorial on religion, my tutor was surprised to know that there are quite a number of non-religious people in the class. He then asked what we do when we have problems. One student simply answers: " Solve it. " That was really a straightfwd answer and a typical one from an atheist.

Was joking with frens in school that I want to create a new religion. A religiion in which people believe in THEMSELVES, where the emphasis is on the self. Then they proposed that it might lead to the delusion of grandeur (feeling of being the greatest in the world). hahz.

Ultimately, God only helps those who help themselves first.

" 'Mirroring' yourself.."

A hostile person lives in a hostile world.
A loving person lives in a loving world.
What you see in others is what you see in yourself.

-from Readers Digest

Take some time to think of the traits/characteristics you often seem to pay more attention to in others. Very likely, those will be the areas that you are particularly sensitive to with respect to yourself. Possibilities: It's either that the traits are already found in you or that you internally wish you can possess them.

True.

"Discouraged......................................................"

"Those who matter don't mind.
Those who mind don't matter. "

(taken from groove's blogspot)


The harsh reality: Those who matter actually mind...!!!!!!!!!!!

What people think of me define my self concept.
What my family members think matters alot.
What they say hurt.
Cos I take it personally, very personally.
When I realize they fail to understand and believe in me.

They are the ones who can give me the GREATEST comfort yet
They are also the ones who can SHATTER me with their most tactless words.



Afterall, what I initially thot to be an inspiring verse is only an illusory theory hidden in the dark spot of reality..... :`(

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"Love is the toughest game to play."

Having say that doesnt mean that I am an experienced or a good player in the game. Being a spectator is often enough to see the overview of the game clearly without having myself involved.

Watching the game is fun. It's a passive yet exciting process at the same time. You don't have to do anything, not responsible for any consequences yet able to watch the dynamic interactions happening on field.

Being a player in the game is even more exciting and fun. You are actively involved. You feel an adrenaline rush to play well and succeed. You feel a totally different you on the field. You just want to be ur best. However the difference is that you will need to carry heavy responsibility for your own actions as how the game turns out to be is partially dependent on how you play it. Its a team effort not a solo play. Very often, you may need to pay a high price for it if you did not give your best shot as seldom there is second chance for the same game. Most of the time, you can only wait for another new game to try again.


I have seen and heard many players dejected after the game. They resign even having played for many years. Some admit defeat. Some are forced to back out. A few get fired for no reason.

Some survived, came out smiling and I congratulate them and smiled together. It's something to be happy for them, really.

For me, I don't see a reason to play the game. Well, I am not a competent player and I lack the skills to perform well. I never feel ready to play so why even want to play at all. Neither do i want to be a reserved player. I hate to be reserved. I rather have zero chance to play at all. Why should I be fitted into the game only when the team cant find any good players and just needed anyone to go in? Being a reserved is worse as you thought you get to play one day but never in the end. It is just a false hope hanging you in the air. Putting me on the reserve list while you search for ur potential players at the same time? Don't ever think of it! Go search for the best players straight away! Don't come looking for reserves just to be on the safe side. You are misleading them into becoming star players!



The bottomline is : If you want to play, play it well. If not, be like me. A spectator, as happy as can be................?????????????????????

Gossiping the Gossipers

I think humans just enjoy talking about other people. It's a joy. It's a pleasure.
It sparks off further dicussion, interaction and conversation among people.

I am not talking about judging people. Somehow, 'judging' this term takes on a more critical approach while gossiping on the other hand to me takes on a more relaxed and harmless stand. Thats what I feel.
Or is there no difference at all ??

It is rather engaging and fun to listen to gossips and I don't think it's just a women's thingy... rite?

Example of gossipy sentences: (for those who have never gossiped b4 in their life to get an idea of wat gossips sound like...are there any1 of u here? ;p)

Below are just some mix and match from what I've heard here and there and perhaps have engagaed myself in also...opss.

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" she lai tou bu xiao ok, she from RJC last time one leh... mai siao siao. but that time saw her smoking outside LT larh kinda disappointing to see lor "

" wah this guy when i saw him always like holding hands with different girl every time... or maybe its the girl who keep changing until i cannot recognize...dunno larh "

" ehh seee that guy in red, walking down the steps one, that one that one yar yarr, going to sit down that one... not bad right, i always bump into him one. last time in my tutorial one mah. can talk alot in class one leh."

" she always wear until very pretty to sch one rite...very confident in herself lor must be. her eyes so big when look at ppl like purposely want to fang dian like that. she looks like those type whose bf must be very rich if not much older than her.."

" wah this girl wear until like that, not scared her belly button catch cold meh? will get stomach ache after that one leh. "

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On the whole, they appear harmless isn't it? Well they are!

Actually, it depends on the intention and motivation of the person who says it at that point in time. Gossips are not always meant to be mean.

I am not pro-gossip. Neither am I anti. I prefer listening much more though. Getting more lazy to comment much nowadays.. unless the topic of interest really have me going.

What is most important is that the gossip said at that time shld end and not be carried forward to others and have it speculated menaciously if the content is undesirable. Have it among ur frens, laugh it off and forget abt it. It is harmless. Really. :>